What am I up to?!

Hello ALL my lovely followers!

Seems I’ve not updated to what I’ve been up to these days! Certainly a lot. 🙂

Currently I’m enrolled at IO Chicago, the premier Improv studio in Chicago. I’m at the VERY end of my 1st Improv level 1 class.  I have signed up for Level 2. How did I get into Improv? At Second City, in my writing classes, they highly advised that you take Improv. As it will greatly improve your writing. Which, YES! Makes total sense. After My writing 3 class, I decided to really give Improv a whirl! Plus, I know that Improv helps your mental process of being quick, and thinking on your toes. Surely being wittier than I already am, couldn’t hurt…right? 🙂 I cannot speak more highly of the classmates I have in my class. They are such an inspiration to me, and they are very much on my eccentric level. Which fuels me more. My Improv quest continues, as my Level 2 begins: Oct 24th.

Boys/Men?

I’m on a couple of dating websites. My main objective is to meet fun new people and if romance strikes, then, God Bless America! I keep it light and fun. I’m loving meeting new people that live in the city and I’m friends with many of the men I’ve had ‘meetings’ with. I LOVE IT! I spent most of my summer with a great guy, we had a lot of fun and lived a little like a real city kid 🙂 I keep myself open, open to any type of friendship that will arise.

House Projects?

I must admit that cutting my lawn was kind of the extent of my household projects this year :/ I have the flooring for my whole house in my garage, an awesome hickory wood laminate that I’m VERY excited about putting down. My mother is a real saint and was my landscaper this year. I can only hope one day I enjoy weeding and edging as much as she does (fingers crossed).

Sweet & Sassy Desserts?

This was something that I’ve gone back and forth with. After I took the summer off this year to enjoy the nights and not turn on the oven. I realized how much I enjoy coming home from work, and doing whatever I want! After over 5yrs of doing my side business weekly, I have decided to put my energy into other things.  I’m open to whatever that creative field may be. Not to say I will never go back to the baking, but, I’m taking a break from that to see what possibilities are out there for me.

I’ve been enjoying life, and being quite a gypsy on the weekends. Just seeing wherever the wind may blow me. I’m on a journey of life to make it special, eccentric, and exciting. I’m very excited to see what is around the corner……big things!

BigLove,

MissCarly 🙂

Improv on….Life?

I’ve recently embarked on another journey, one that I had been avoiding…Improv! Doesn’t sound too scary, right? As eccentric as I can be, I still have a bit of a security blanket on me. I knew I had to sign up to release this blanket. I can’t lie, I was scared, excited, and nervous all at the same time. The 1st class seemed to just linger, as I cannot lie, part of me was wondering, ‘when is class over?’. The blanket I hold is, something my mother taught me is: to always be a lady. Yes, sometimes I chuckle about that, because there have been TOO many occasions were I have not acted like a lady. As each week passes, I feel the sense of my being being exposed and not being afraid to just be.

There is something that my teacher has said over and over in class that has got me thinking about: improv on life. He says: no matter what we do, it’s ALWAYS RIGHT in class. To never doubt if your doing or not doing something right or wrong. Improv is a complete ego-free/judgment free zone. This made me think: would if we treated life in the same regard? Would if we knew everything we said or did was ‘right’? There is no real ‘right’ or ‘wrong’. It’s the strings of society that deems certain behaviors or words are ‘right’ or ‘wrong’.  I know saying there is no real wrong, some may think, ‘so, I can speed, steal, be ‘mean’ and it be ‘ok’?’. There is one ‘rule’ of thought that streams with all religions and ways of thinking:

The Golden Rule: One should treat others as one would like others to treat oneself.

Seems easy enough. Right? With this golden rule of thinking, you can literally live a life of improv. As, everything you do in life is correct. No need to second judge what your doing or saying. Doesn’t that sound refreshing, liberating, and…easy? Just remember that all you do IS right! Notice what shifts in your world happen when you change your thinking.

Just a little tid bit that had me thinking!

BigLove to ALL!

MissCarly 🙂

Letting it unfold….naturally

Ohhh the feeling of: I want it, and I want it NOW!!!

I would believe this is a reaction that we are programmed to have. Pretty sure there hasn’t been one child that hasn’t pouted for not getting what they wanted (reference: any check out line and all the sugar laden treats).

Harnessing the: wait. Well, that seems like a painful process. But, in the end, we all make it after the ‘wait’, heck, we waited for Santa Claus patiently and never died over the wait.

Knowing that a rose never struggles to blossom, is always a thought that puts me in my mental place of letting things…happen. Such an easy concept that I always skip right over when I want something. There is always a reason for the ‘wait’, and allowing the space to create itself is crucial. In short, the wait means: you aren’t ready for what you want. If you were, you’d already have this item of your visions. Yes, that is a painful thought, buuuuutttttt….I want it!!

There is no need to rush what should unfold naturally. Just think of all the items that you might have bought on a whim that… weren’t really sooo great. Who has a house full of infomercial goods? Could you imagine for instant the amount of discarded loves (if we could put them in a box), if we have if we actually ‘got’ every single one we wanted for a moment?  We are always sold on the end result, and really lose sight of the process of getting what we are seeking. It would certainly help if we had the birds eye view for situations.

A lot of times I think all these things I want are good positive things, why should I have to wait?! In my own reflection of these good things, leads me to believe that I’m truly not ready to deal with these great things. Always pointing to the lessons. Seems like such a downer of a word. But, if there were no lessons, there would be no point to living.

How ever you want to say it, I hope these phrases can resonate with you. Many times I’m triggered by a set of words/phrase I hear.

*No need to rush what should unfold naturally

*A rose doesn’t struggle to bloom

*Lose the Agenda

The end result is: what is truly meant for you, there is NO stopping that item from being yours. Even if a giant rock falls on you in the process of getting that ‘thing’. Trust that. Trust the time it takes. Trust the struggles.

Be OPEN! Allow! Create a space! Live Life! And…..for goodness sakes: Have FUN!

In the words of Marvin Gaye, ‘there anit no mountain high enough, to get me from getting to you babe..’

BigLove,

MissCarly 🙂

Why are we here anyways?!

It’s not of pure torture or a coincidence that we are all here on this planet.

What has helped me and really make me alive, and feel connected to the world is, we aren’t just here to:

*Get Married

*Have 2.5 kids

*Work 9-5 / M-F

*Have a White picket fence

That certainly is a picture that I know I had gotten stuck in my head, especially since I was dedicated to playing Barbie and Ken until it wasn’t socially acceptable as a child.

Knowing that life is a WAY bigger picture and to release from the ideas that bind us to social standards. What are YOU here to do? Everyone on this earth has a special talent or can do something that nobody else can. Show the world what you got!!! That’s what your here for!  When you show the world your purpose, your soul will rejoice with it’s true self. Life doesn’t have to be hard. If it’s hard, truth be told….you have made it hard. Remember that ego is hard and spirit is easy. So, if your struggling for something and it’s not coming together as you hoped. Stop and think, maybe it’s NOT supposed to happen! This is why I say that I embrace all bridges and barricades, as they are there for a reason. You might not know at the moment a barricade came up, but, later you will acknowledge that it was ‘right’. Because there is simply no such thing as a going a wrong direction. Yes, you might detour, but, again, there is probably a hidden message in that detour that is preparing you for your main path. And, we are always on that main path, there isn’t a cruise control on life. Get out there and do your souls purpose! Because when you do, you will electrify your life, there is no greater feeling.

If you feel like you are in a rut, change your direction. ‘What you seek is seeking you” -Rumi. Start seeking out your path…..it will find you, promise!

Same goes for people in our lives. Do you ever wonder why you feel a connection with someone you just met, they have that certain sparkle in their eyes? That’s just the thing. Most people you come in contact with, your soul has known for a million or so years. We hang around in the same circles: friends, enemies, lovers, family etc… There is almost really nobody new in our lives, because they have been with us forever. Another Rumi quote because I adore him: ‘Lovers don’t finally meet somewhere. They’re in each other all along.’ Also acknowledge that not everyone in your life is supposed to remain with you forever. Many are just here for the lesson, or to help you with a certain time in your life. Once they helped you get through something, they may not be a service to you anymore. It’s o.k. to part from friends/lovers, and not to take it personally when you do part. It’s a natural transition of life. If the forces bring you together again, then, embrace that.

I encourage everyone to look at life in a different light. Not as a day in day out function, but, as a real life changing life! If you need to change things up a bit, change them! Live in the present, because that is the ONLY thing you can change. Can I quote Wayne’s World? When Garth told Wayne to: Live in the NOW! 🙂

Keep things light, fun, and fascinating!

BigLove,

MissCarly 🙂

How Original do YOU feel?

Just like your finger print, there isn’t another finger print like yours out there, never has and never will be.

With all the media of stars doing this, wearing this, eating this, drinking that, and popping this pill……do you find yourself more app to do those things? There is a reason celebrities in Hollywood endorse products…..our egos deep down want to be ‘like’ them. And we feel if we had/did the things they do, that we are one step closer to them. Maybe? Am I stretching it with that idea?

We have sooo much power within us that WE are original. So. Why try to be like anyone else? Emulating others in any regard is taking yourself farther away from your true self. Now. Yes, if you see something you like, I’m not saying that isn’t you. But. There is a ‘hype’ of having this or that, because your favorite celebrities/athlete has it. Not to mention there is often a heavy price tag to emulate our favorite celebrities. Harness your own brand, because you are your own brand. Be proud to do, be, wear what makes you YOU!

I know I have flipped through a fashion or tabloid magazine and thought, “what were they thinking wearing that?!!?” Reality is, they aren’t dressing for me, they are dressing for them. If they left the house being their true self, who am I to judge what they wear. Same thing with having a companion wanting/not wanting you to wear certain things, or, have your hair a certain way. There is one thing to ‘appease’ others, but, how far away from your true self are you willing to go to get the approval of others?

I sometimes say, when shopping with friends, you have to throw out those ‘rules of fashion’, because. 1st: aren’t rules meant to be broken? 😉  and 2nd: Fashion changes as quickly as the seasons do, and that isn’t a pun!

So. Bottom line, if you see someone that you are questioning their choices….stop. Be You! Let others be who they want to be! If you feel like you have let the ideas of others/media steer you in a direction that isn’t you, time to take a hold of the wheel.

Remember that we came into the world with nothing, and we leave with nothing. (as much as I want to take ALL my shoes with me…)

Mix things. Shake things. Create things. Color outside the lines. Break social standards.

Being your true self will only radiate yourself, your soul, your purpose. Lets radiate! And! Lets let others radiate without questioning their choices! Practice the art of just being!

BigLove AllMyOneOfAKinds!

MissCarly

*Now, if I have mascara running down my face, or lipstick in my teeth, do tell me. That isn’t my fashion statement 🙂

What does 2015 mean to you?

For me, it means:

*Fresh Start

*New Goals

*New Ideas

*Leaving the Past in the Past

*Working on Becoming the Ultimate ME!

*Oh, yah….Finally getting to my Goal Weight! 😉

With all these fresh new ideas, they will take a some time to actually acknowledge them through out the day…mmmm….who knew?! Needless to say… with these grand ideas that we put out on a whim…well…..their success rate may be low. It certainly takes more than a whim or a last minute idea for something to grow. With any change, you are planting a seed. These seeds are ‘small’ in relationship to what it takes to grow these seeds, Sun and water. That is Sun and water EVERYDAY! Just like a plant, with these new changes in place, in the beginning you are young and fragile. Over time, you’ll have deep roots, a substantial core, and a lively growth. Reaping all it’s given: Sun and Water. When you think about what it takes to get a plant going, and if you have ever nursed a plant back to health, you will know, you treat it with extra special love and care. This goes the same for you. We need extra love and care for making these decisions. After all, these new changes are our ‘babies’.

With the passing of 2014, I took time to write out ALL the items I was leaving in 2014. This was a list I didn’t take lightly. Not only did I write what I was letting go, but, why I was thankful for letting each go. How did I learn from those items? After all, it’s all about learning and you certainly cannot move forward without being grateful for those items, even the not so great ones. Then I wrote ALL the items that I was creating a space for in 2015.

Writing this, it’s 13 days into the new year, and I had let myself ‘lapse’ a bit on day 10. I know that I wasn’t taking the time to affirm my changes like I had in the prior 10 days. I was starting to listen to those voices in my head saying, ‘hey, it’s ok…I’m just a corn chip…have a couple….’, They key with falling down is getting back up and recommitting to why you started the change in the 1st place. I wasn’t giving those changes the Sun and water it needed to grow.

New changes mean you need to create a space that was once filled by something else. Take time to continue to free up that space for your hopes and dreams. It just needs a space. Remember that two things cannot occupy one space. Choose which do you want 2014 or 2015?!

Be KIND to your ‘new’ you! Keep that water and Sun on it in full force everyday!

A great quote: “Following the light of the sun, we left the Old World. – Christopher Columbus

Remember that every morning is a new day. Keep the momentum going on the ‘new’ you!

Some thoughts that always gets me thinking how great we are as humans:

*We are made of the same elements are the stars

*We are not solid. You can shave off any piece of our beings, and look under a microscope and see atoms moving.

BigLove,

MissCarly

MissCarly Update

A little update to what I’ve been up to!

Something I have signed up for that took a couple pushes from a friends grandma was….to get to the city and do something in the arts! Well. After she shook me hard in July, I listened and…signed up for an intro to acting at Actor’s Studio Chicago. I didn’t know what to expect. Along with doing something fun, I really wanted to do two other things: Explore the City and Meet NEW people! These items have been checked off that list.

There is something that feels sooo good with my soul about walking downtown. It’s the wind, the smells, and the sights of all the city has to offer. The location of the class is in the heart of ALL fun things, so, there is such a great hustle down there, and never an empty sidewalk. There was such a feeling of contentment on my 1st day, and I stood over the Chicago River and just took it all in. It felt like my life couldn’t get any better at that very moment. I knew my soul needed this new beginning.

As I am an outgoing person, this class for sure has help lift some of a blanket I have kept on me. The class was much better than I expected and I expected it to be great! I certainly have a whole new respect for actors. Man, I just thought a good actor meant they could read a script well….well….that is just like 10% of it! Sooo many facets of the art. It really opened up my horizons to that form of art. Needless to say, I have signed up for the 2nd session of the intro to acting. I’ll be with some of my old classmates and some new people as well. Meeting these new people is a fav of mine. We had done all these awesome exercises each class to get comfortable with each other. These are exercises that sure would be helpful with my current friends/family! It was an awesome feeling to have instant bonds with my new classmates. Sooo looking forward to my next session starting Dec 6th!

Home updates! Well, my ’86 Cadillac of a furnace wasn’t doing so well. I was informed by my HVAC guy that she wouldn’t make it through the winter. She lived a good long life without a doubt! So, I have a new totally efficient furnace to keep me warm!

NIU will be coming to a close mid December. I had made the decision months ago, really, I told myself I wasn’t going back there in May….but…the thought of extra money to pay my bills, it seemed like the right thing at the moment. Plus I had told them, I’d only work 3 nights a week. Which they agreed to the terms, which I thought they wouldn’t. I can tell in these last passing weeks that the universe is telling me not to go back there, for real this time! I’m listening!!!! 🙂 Sometimes it takes me a few pushes. A lesson I have been learning is more is not more, more has been less for me. I’m not my true person working there. I’m sleep deprived, filled with chatty-toxic environment, and I have literally no time for me. Which. I’m my own MOST important person, that I’ve pushed to the side, and it’s showing its face. I’m also crabbier. Yes. I’ve been crabby 🙂 Again, showing me, that I’m not acting in a true reflection of myself.

There is something BIG around the corner of letting go of the fear of ‘not having enough funds’, this is where I will grow as a person. Letting go of that blanket, which really is a crutch…after all.

I’m looking forward mid Dec to the rest of my eternity to…not being crabby 🙂

With Thanksgiving being around the corner, like most, I have been making self reflections on my life. I’ve been practicing being grateful for all the things in my life, even the items I do not like, I’m truly grateful for the lows and the highs.

I’m opening the door of my life for unbelievable opportunities.

Practicing less is actually more.

Being grateful for every bridge or road block I encounter.

Happy Beginning of the Holidays to ALL!

BigLove,

MissCarly

Club Soda in a wine glass…please….

This is now my tall order when I hit any kind of bar or drinking situation.

Being sans alcohol has been easy for me. Yes. I say easy! Simply because I’ve realized ALL the things I was missing when I was drinking. I like having those ‘things’ now. The thought of giving them up is not an option for me now. It’s like someone handed me a pot of gold! It was such a life changing experience that I learned more about myself in the 1st year of sobriety than I known about myself in the 31 years of my being. I had pulled away the velvet curtain hiding myself.

When I denied a drink, or, just say, I actually do not drink anymore….the faces of everyone would be like one of a dog that looks at you sideways, or, I’d get a total dropped/feared face of a person, and then their utmost confusion of why I do not drink anymore. It’s like I’m trying to tell people that grass is purple. I would start to tell people I did it for health reasons, and then they would lose interest immediately in my story, so, I started jokingly telling people, that it was court ordered and that I have a few battery charges, that ALWAYS peaked interest in my ‘story’. Funny how I had to have drama filled story to get anyone interested in my journey.

Now. The beginning of my journey wasn’t ‘fun’. In fact, it was slightly like an identity crisis. I learned friends that I had for years, ‘didn’t’ want to hang out with me, or, didn’t invite me out anymore. It was pretty emotional for me at times. Friends would mention that I would judge them while drinking now, really, I could give two-shits about what people do. Really, they are judging themselves. Yes, there were times were I’d be like, ‘this party would be a lot more fun, if I was drinking….’, or, ‘this person’s story would be a lot funnier if I was drinking’…The key for me was, be around those people that are drinking that are actually FUN! The people that laughed, danced, and just kept things positive. My favorite thing about being sober was…having complete control. That is something I drank to get away from before. Now, I enjoy control sooo much that the thought of not having it makes me uncomfortable. I feel like I can be sillier while dancing, because, everyone is a little sideways anyways!

Another BIG thing was Love. Being loved. While drinking, I didn’t think I deserved a love that was real. I cheated myself in ‘relationships’ that were based upon last call. Now I realize what I deserve, and it’s a LOT more than anyone has EVER shown me in my drinking days. I’ve never ‘needed’ a relationship to live my life. Never been a serial dater. But, now I’m a lot more choosey in who I spend time with. I’m just all about having fun, and if isn’t fun anymore…I end it. 🙂

I remember when I was drinking, I actually judged people that didn’t drink. I thought they were lame and didn’t like to have fun. In fact, I too was soooo confused myself why someone choose not to drink! My weekends were based upon: when can I start drinking? can I sneak drinks in somewhere? what time do the bars open (this was a struggle on Sunday’s waiting till noon)? I didn’t have the funds to be drinking as much as I did on the weekends, so, I would charge my drinks, and why not buy a few rounds of drinks for people while I’m at it?! This was another big of the reason for me quitting. I was living beyond my means. I would blow $40-$80 per session, and I realized I couldn’t keep up with that. I would go with a $20 bill in my hand, and end up at the ATM to get more cash. I was again, creating more issues that I was drinking away. My debt. I was also drinking away that I really didn’t like myself. I wasn’t proud of who I was. I didn’t like the way my clothes felt. I drank to forget all those things. I drank to get the confidence I was lacking. Sure, I was out-going sober, but, really, I wasn’t, it was just a facade I created, which was slowly crumbling.

Now! I know who I am, and I’m learning more and more about myself everyday. It’s truly an awesome feeling. I have the ability to trust my thoughts and feelings. My thoughts have changed to knowing that I create EVERYTHING that happens to me. So, if I do not like something, I change it, seems simple, right? It’s just that simple. I’ve learned to not live in stories that I have created. I can only control myself, and nobody else. It’s a much simpler way to live, and drama-free. I have the clarity to think now. I’ve learned what world of opportunity there is to have, I couldn’t see it from my bar stool. 😉 I have accomplished sooo much since I quit, I seriously believe it was a pinnacle moment in life. I couldn’t really begin living my life till I made the change. Needless to say, my life has blossomed like crazy. I know I’m only gaining speed on my life, soooo step aside and…watch out! 😉

BigLove,

MissCarly

Ps: I will still close down any bar, you’ll probably find me at the jukebox rocking the best sing-a-long songs….and…I’m the BEST DD! 🙂

Pss: Are you sure Hank done it this way…

Conventional…For you or your paper towels?

con·ven·tion·al

adjective \kən-ˈvench-nəl, –ˈven(t)-shə-nəl\

1. Based on or in accordance with general agreement, use, or practice; customary: conventional symbols; a conventional form of address.
2. Conforming to established practice or accepted standards; traditional: a conventional church wedding.

3.

   a. Devoted to or bound by conventions to the point of artificiality; ceremonious.
   b. Unimaginative; conformist:

Do any of the above definitions even sound like something we can use as a definition our lives? There is a time and place for conventional things. But, your life? Re: to 3(a): “Devoted to or bound by conventions to the point of artificiality”, that just sounds sooo much like living in a box. Doing anything artificially is certainly not true to you, your soul, or your purpose. We have all heard, ‘there isn’t a single person in the world like you, you are special’. There never has been and never will be anyone like you. Does conventional fall into those perimeters of being a one of a kind? I know, I have listened to fairy tails as a child to watching tv/movies as an adult of ‘perfect’ relationships. I have drawn up in my head of what I feel is how I should be/live. With these ideas that ‘bind’ us, we tend to not be able to see what is outside of the box…geez….being 3(b): unimaginative; conformist. The thought of being unimaginative is like living in black and white to me. Makes me seize up.

Detaching from the outcome has been a different lesson for me to adhere to, but, the more I do it, the more it has become part of my thought process. Which is kind of like a reverse process. Because whatever we create in our heads is NOT the way it was created to be. So. Detach! 🙂 We have all heard, ‘oh, well that didn’t happened the way I planned….’, well, guess what….it was never supposed to happen the way you had it in your head. No need to get disappointed, because you just created a ‘false’ outcome. Embrace being different, embrace things not happening the way you hoped it to be, detach from living in a box of ideas that do not mean anything to you in this life time. Keep the fairy tails to Disney.

Love is not conventional. No one should be denied of love, how they feel, or living the an unconventional way. I have never thought of myself as conventional anything, and, yes, sometimes my ego reels me into thinking, ‘I shouldn’t do that because what would others think…’, I can’t believe that I sometimes battle with what other people think. I’ve never cared too much…maybe I really do a little more than I think. Bottom line, you live one sweet life, do not let standards, conformity, others thoughts, conversations dictate what you truly feel inside. If it feels good, that is your soul telling you YES!!!

Spirit is Easy, Ego is Hard. Go Easy! 🙂

People will ALWAYS chatter, but…as Bonnie Raitt sang….Let’s give’em something to talk about…

How about LOVE?!? 🙂

BigUnconventionalLove to all of you!!!

Miss Carly

Ps: I do not buy conventional paper towels 😉

One of the hardest lessons to learn…

We all get caught up in the blame game…right? I mean, if I’m late somewhere my 1st instinct was to blame something that ‘made’ me late. Or…if I have fallen in a string of bad luck, I’m sure I have an excuse for that too! Lord knows I couldn’t help myself for being late or falling into a pattern of bad luck…right?!?! Well. The honest to goodness truth is….YES, I have control over these things. I remember reading a funny about, not being able to control everything in life, and my hair was there to show me that. Which…THAT is true. 🙂

One of the hardest lesson that for me needs constant attention, or acknowledgement is: The World is a Mirror. When I 1st heard that, I was getting all heated like, ‘are you telling me, I created ________!!!?!?!?!’, defensive was a word I would use as my reaction. What I’ve learned in the past is, if someone is getting defensive, they are fighting something they know they are wrong/guilty of. So, I take a breath now.

We all have energy that we are omitting. It can be ‘good’ or ‘bad’, and your energy attracts the same type of energy. When I feel like, I’ve gotten into a rut of things, I stop and think, ok, lets change this around, I do not like feeling like this, or having these things happen to me. Like I mentioned for me, I need constant attention of knowing what I’m falling into. Because, I can easily fall into a toxic conversation with someone about the – he said, she said – If I add to that conversation, I’m asking for more drama. My mode now, is, like a fire drill, to: Stop, drop, and roll. When I feel things coming unwound, I stop and change it. Because, since I’m ‘smarter’ now, I know that everything that happens to me, I take full responsibility for. No blame game needed, unless I want more drama in my life 😉

Stop and think what energy your putting out. If you not sure, look at what has/is happening to you. If that is the path you like, keep it up, if not, time to change to it up. Knowing your in control of your fate is…..liberating!!!!!!!!!! Create your future! Surround yourself with positive beings! You will be amazed at the possibilities that are waiting for you at arms length.

The World is a Mirror, let it be a mirror that you would like to look into!

BigLove,

MissCarly 🙂

Relationships….

One thing to remember is, we have a relationship with EVERYTHING. With our friends/family, with work, with our money, our food, the gym….not all just love and kisses. This is seemingly why we can’t escape the word.

If you think about all the types of relationships we have, you can see how one year you like one thing and another year your into another thing. We aren’t supposed to eat the same food every day for the rest of our lives, so, why would we treat any relationship to a ‘forever’ status? There is all that ego pressure in ‘making’ something forever. Fighting anything is going against the current, and really, we should leave that up to the salmon to do that. Sometimes you need to ask yourself, is this really worth fighting for? What am I really getting from this? Step outside of what you fear to happen, and just allow. If something keeps coming up like a broken record, you need to stop, think, and stop the player. The record will stop playing the same song when you are ready to stop hearing it. Ego likes the same song, Spirit wants a totally different record on the player.

Most of the time, we have these feelings of, what will others think?! Which really, once you learn that NOBODY really cares what you are doing, you will actually start making choices that you want. Not because so and so thinks it’s a great fit! Stopping the chatter from other people in your lives in refreshing and liberating. In fact, remove yourself from the chatter, because their chatter is not making your life, and generally it’s toxic having other people putting their two sense on something that they have no idea about. It’s like someone reading the 1st page and last page of the book….there is a whole lot of details in the middle! Listening to what you feel your needs are, and living in those perimeters, you may find that the world will grant you more than you had in mind.

This subject in itself can be probably the longest book written….remembering to be true to yourself and leaving the social standards of where you should be, or what you should be doing will set your apart from everybody else. Everyone’s book is sooo different, this is why if you take a look around at anything, all we do is talk, listen, and surround ourselves with others, even with strangers! 😉

**Did you notice that this post wasn’t about LOVE?** Because sometimes that isn’t what it’s ALL about! Life is about YOU! Once you are accepting to learn about you, what really makes you tick, all sorts of grand things will happen!

Live everyday like you have been given the greatest gift possible!

MissCarly

Uniquely Me

I’m starting a blog to just to just write about interesting things, what I’m up to, and just great awakening moments I have that I feel would be useful for the masses.

I’ve recently had some awesome changes in my world, I bought a house. That very item has transformed my world more than I could have ever imagined. I have a sense of peace that I have never felt before and It seems to grow daily. My soul finally has a venue to recharge and grow. I always say, ‘I don’t shop at Old Navy’ as a statement that I don’t want to look/be like everybody else (not trying to dis any old navy shoppers, just a general statement). My house is a clear reflection of my eccentric personality. I’ve had a vision since I 1st stepped into that house, it was the 1st house I looked at and KNEW it HAD to be mine! It was such a struggle, one I never thought would be sooo difficult, but, it happened, and forever grateful for my ‘team’ of people that never gave up on my dream I had painted for them. Dec 18, 2013 was the grand day I will never forget. That is when I officially became a tax payer 🙂

 

I’m looking forward to writing/sharing my world with anyone that wants to listen. keeping this one short!

 

BigLove,

MissCarly